To Anonymous – M . You are the only one I agree with. Seems HR people are not to be trusted at all because it is all in the name of business. Poster gave too much information to the HR who was not concern with the poster, just that work had to be done otherwise she would have told you she had to tell the supervisor of your fiance,but did she? Learn employee , learn!

I had a similar situation here, and had to be sure to caution both employees about sharing information that should stay within their own department / level.

Even ASSUMING that this is how the information leaked down to other co-workers, so what? The poster can’t imagine that the two of them could get/be married without co-workers eventually finding out. People will talk. It’s not nescessarily negative, but if you’re that sensitive about it, you shouldn’t have dated someone at work! If you can’t deal, find another job, since people are always going to speculate about it, the same way they will speculate about any co-worker’s spouse, etc. Speculation is only intensified by knowing both partners.

However, the way the leak about the wedding was represented, it sounded like, if HR needed to disclose that info, that they did not warn the employee they would do so. Which kind of sucks and is unprofessional in my opinion. Sounds like the employee was surprised to find their secret was out. Not cool. That’s not treating people with respect.

HR needed to be upfront that the conversation was not confidential (While I don’t think HR was the same as a confessional, I do expect courtesy and discretion and disclosure). The fact that it appears that they weren’t gives me ‘bad employer’ vibes. Time for a new job.

Anonymous-M

Just my two cents.