Unless you have kids, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT to speak about the realities that comes with raising children. I was once like you. I never thought before children that I would “have a child take over my life, to the point where I come dead last.” Something transformative happens to a woman when is holding her own child in her arms, or even commits to adopting a child. She learns that life is no longer about her and what she thought was important (career, self-fulfillment, being SELFISH and SELF RIGHTOEUOUS) are replaced with totally different priorities…her relationship with Christ, her marriage to her husband, her children’s heavy dependence on her. I never thought in a million years that I would be a extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, quit college and take seriously my being the helpmeet that I was designed by God to be to my husband, so he could finally finish college and provide for his family without me getting in the way with my “need for a degree.” I learned very hard that my arrogant selfishness almost cost me EVERYTHING. When you have a sick child who has back-to-back ear infections preventing her from being able to attend daycare and you are trying to hold a fulltime job only to get fired as you would percieve “over attentiveness” to the child, not to mention spending $60 a day on sick daycare at a local hospital, and being late for work for circumstances BEYOND YOUR CONTROL to protect your husband’s job from him having to do the same BECAUSE SOMEBODY NEEDS TO PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY WITHOUT PISSING OFF THE BOSS WITH caring for children, then maybe you can begin to understand how hard it is to hide the fact that you have children to your boss, let alone hide the fact that you are pregnant. Children CHANGE EVERYTHING, that’s why many women have abortions because they don’t want to responsibility EXPECTED OF THEM AS A MOTHER when they would rather worship their idol of a career. Children need their parents, especially their mother (the nurturer and teacher) to raise them up properly at home, not being passed off to be brought up in daycare, afterschool care. (very expensive by the way.) There is more, much more to life than being a slave to your career. Nobody on their deathbed ever says, “I wish I had more time to work,” instead they wish they had more time with their loved ones.

As a woman, I completely agree with you!! I was a stay-at-home mom for the first couple of years, and it was the most rewarding time of my life taking care of my family. My husband and I were wise with our money and managed on one income. The economy in our area has tanked, and I returned to work full time to off-set the spotty employment for my husband. I hate working full-time and being away from my child!! I hate not being able to take care of my son when he is sick!! I hate having to manage cooking a healthy meal, homework, family time, yard work, care for elderly parents in only a few hours each night!! Feminists may hate me, but I want to take care of my family!!

I totally agree with you! something is really wrong with the way we are set up. Working parents have 2 -3 hours per day with the children. Housing requires 2 almost full salaries, day care cost are almost equivalent to mortgages. It is so sad!

To be fair, society isn’t even supposed to WORK this way! Women are supposed to stay home and take care of the home and children while the men at work – whom should also be able to make more than enough for them all.

And don’t give me that bullcrap about women wanting equality and feminism, it’s all propaganda because the bankers could only tax the working men at the time. Women these days have allowed them to become manipulated into debt-based servitude and the original post in merely a symptom of a much serious issue we’re facing in society today.

This society is rapidly declining and it’s no surprise with the family unit constantly under attack. You can thank the world bankers for this disaster in our evolution. What a waste of potential and life.

Get it through your thick heads, people. Aim for a traditional family structure and go back to how things used to be! This cannot go on forever!

I hope your doing fine and your lovely kids as well. I have been reading your blogs one of it is “my boss does not understand that i have kids”. I think that your boss likes you, what his trying to say is that his day is incomplete without you that’s why he needs you be around.:) Seriously, There are times that we all need to report to both our duties and responsibilities at home. Just try to let him know what really had happened. I’m sure your boss will understand.

Best regards;

Mark

Call me heartless, but it’s not the organization or the boss’ problem that you decided that having little ankle-biters was a good idea. They’re your responsibility and if it gets in the way of work, you should be called to account for it.

I suspect that this is not the first time. It was also handled poorly.

Flexibility is really important to a lot of people. More bosses should realize that.