Comments on: Are You the Office Bully? No? Are You Sure About That?

By: Also anon

Also anon — Wed, 26 Oct 2016 10:11:09 +0000

In reply to Anon today. Agreed.

By: Anon today

Anon today — Tue, 25 Oct 2016 19:39:19 +0000

I think there is a chasm between failing to be gracious or self-aware and being a bully. It’s a continuum and I would not consider everybody who acts in a self-interested way to be a bully.

By: SuperRabbit

SuperRabbit — Tue, 25 Oct 2016 15:11:36 +0000

In reply to Jeanne. Agreed. I think of bullying as sabotaging a co-worker's project, being purposely cruel in feedback, or humiliating teammates in front of the rest of the team. All done with the intent to dehumanize the victim. Taking the best project and leaving me with the boring one? It may be thoughtless, but it's a part of work.

By: Deana

Deana — Mon, 24 Oct 2016 23:23:50 +0000

I enjoyed the article – definitely some food for thought. I didn’t see choosing an interesting task as “bullying.” It’s just picking a task, as assigned — and not being overly gracious to another person is not actually bullying. 🙂 But I think the article makes the point well about thinking from the perspective of another person.

By: Jeanne

Jeanne — Mon, 24 Oct 2016 20:17:56 +0000

These are good thoughts. I think of bullying though as much harsher. Bullying is things that you can’t see their side of things. It has the element of the irrational or illogical. But it is good to not assume bullying and think it through.

By: Sandy Nolen

Sandy Nolen — Mon, 24 Oct 2016 19:23:28 +0000

Interesting article but so very true. We all get bullied one time or another and bully others without even realizing it. While some people are indeed bully and they realize it, most people simply become one due to the situation. For example, if I am under a tough deadline and my peer isn’t putting as much effort as I am, I am more likely to snap and bully him or her. Sometime we all get caught up in our own deadlines, work schedules and don’t realize when we are being jerks to others.

By: grannybunny

grannybunny — Mon, 24 Oct 2016 14:46:54 +0000

Someone who complains about getting “the heavy side of the hymnbook” may well be someone with an irrational need to find fault or play the victim. Absent professional help, they would be unlikely to change either their perceptions or their resulting behavior.

By: J.B.

J.B. — Mon, 24 Oct 2016 13:40:46 +0000

Relationships between people are incredibly complicated, and listening to understand instead of to respond makes a huge difference. There are plenty of people who lack social or communication skills and who do not intend to offend…but how you treat others is always important.