Comments on: How to Handle a Non-Drinker at the Office https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html Everything to make HR better Wed, 02 Jan 2019 14:38:29 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.4 By: grannybunny https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213279 Wed, 02 Jan 2019 14:38:29 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213279 “How to Handle a Non-Drinker at the Office” suggests that a non-drinker is somehow a problem. The real problem is those who would make an issue of an employee’s declining an alcoholic drink. An much more serious problem is “How to Handle a Drinker at the Office.”

]]> By: grannybunny https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213278 Wed, 02 Jan 2019 14:35:13 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213278 In reply to Dorothy.

Oh, please, don’t get all snooty because someone declined to accept your “gift” of alcohol. Since when is providing beverages to some, but not ALL, employees at a work event, considered acceptable? It’s simple, common, courtesy for a meeting host providing refreshments to provide items foreseeably inclusive for everyone.

]]> By: Mr No P Leez https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213276 Tue, 01 Jan 2019 14:11:04 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213276 In reply to ..Kat...

That’s the local 3.2% brew sold to those under age 21 in Ohio (in times long past)? I referred to it as Camel P, just to give it an exotic ‘air.’

]]> By: Goober https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213275 Tue, 01 Jan 2019 08:59:44 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213275 In reply to ..Kat...

I can only imagine. But having been something of a gearhead in high school, I *do* know what used motor oil tastes like, and it’s preferable to the taste of alcohol.

]]> By: ..Kat.. https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213274 Tue, 01 Jan 2019 05:59:04 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213274 In reply to Goober.

I am concerned that you know what moose pee tastes like. =)

]]> By: Dorothy https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213273 Mon, 31 Dec 2018 19:23:17 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213273 “Now, the proper thing to do is offer something different if someone declines your alcoholic beverage …”

An offer of a drink is a gift. If someone declines your gift, no hat, no foul. For the love of Mike, dint press the person to accept, don’t make fun of the person, dint comment at all.

And, sure, offer an alternative, but …

Again, it’s an offer of a gift. If the person declines, I don’t recognize an OBLIGATION to offer an alternative. If I knit you a hat, you wouldn’t say, “No, thanks; knit me a pair of socks instead.”

]]> By: Ruth (UK) https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213272 Mon, 31 Dec 2018 18:00:54 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213272 When I was a uni student, I had a housemate who was assaulted while drunk. She was made to feel that she was partly at fault. Sadly, society still does that. Following that, I was teetotal for a little over two years as drinking made me feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. During that time, I experienced a lot of pressure to drink, especially as a young person.

I drink a low/moderate amount now (I don’t regularly exceed more than 1 or 2 pints (beer or sometimes shandy) on a night out and rarely have other types of alcohol. I would say I almost never get comments now on what I choose to drink.

Being a non drinker for a while really shed some light on how negative people can be in their attitude towards it. Something I hadn’t noticed before. Even if you’re trying to just quietly have a soft drink, people will draw a lot of attention to it and then act like you’re the one who made it a big deal.

]]> By: Phil https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213271 Mon, 31 Dec 2018 17:32:22 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213271 I’m 72-today!-and stopped drinking half a lifetime ago. It never stops surprising me how many people press alcohol on me. Sometimes I’m polite, sometimes I’m not. Sometimes if they are really pressing I just say, in the nicest possible time,” I’m a lush. If I have one drink I’ll end up in the gutter.”
That stops ’em.

]]> By: Goober https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213270 Mon, 31 Dec 2018 16:47:43 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213270 These days, I can play the medical card (because alcohol doesn’t play well with diabetic medication), but I’ve always been a non-drinker because I just can’t stand the taste of alcohol. Never had an issue at work, because I’ve never worked for anyone that irrational long enough for it to come up, but I have a number of friends who spent years trying to convince me that just hadn’t tried the “good stuff.”

Yes, I have. It still tastes like moose pee. The moose might well be wearing a chef’s hat, but it still comes out of the same end. I’d rather drink used motor oil.

]]> By: Elizabeth West https://www.evilhrlady.org/2018/12/how-to-handle-a-non-drinker-at-the-office.html#comment-213269 Mon, 31 Dec 2018 16:40:14 +0000 https://www.evilhrlady.org/?p=5071#comment-213269 This this this. I don’t want to drink with colleagues. Even being anywhere with them outside work is not my thing. The last thing I want to do is get tiddly around them. I’ll save that for when I’m with friends.
Besides, I always end up driving myself, since we don’t have good public transport here, so I usually just don’t drink at all. I don’t really miss out on anything.

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