Currently, I’m in a (position) were I know more than my very lazy Director. This woman is great at talking down, pointing fingers and doing everything to make herself look great.

I was requested to a meeting the other day–that the CEO was copied on.
It said, please attend the meeting in a civil manner (to me). That was the nice part of the letter..
Another meeting for us to be alone -where she pushes every button.. The director gives me all her work. Than- she inspects it- and finds the (smallest) of nothing and makes it something- just to make me feel like shit.. As per- our policy the Director can give us any-work- even hers.. So- besides my work I’m building a case load of 55. I currently built 17 clients in 6 weeks. All my clients have the most severe mental health issues besides most have, drug charges, bi-polar disorder, schizophrenia, sexual abuse issues and homeless. They have court orders and they don’t comply. Not only – do I have to be a Social Worker- I’m the out-reach person also.. Which means i’m the sales person for the agency, we get leads or in social work terms “referrals” and I need to convince and make (sick people) come to the agency.. I then – do the intakes, assessments and care plans. Which was the Director’s job at one point.. I also oversee all 17 clients and their chaos. I’m the gate keeper for any service even the oversight for the quality of care received by the medical providers.. My clients, have court orders, might be drug seeking, committed murder, Arson and might even be high and acting out.

Where not allowed to work overtime and our caseloads have gone from 30 to 55. Not sure- if anyone understands the chaos– but- think of how one addict or alcoholic disrupts a whole family– I’m building a caseload of 55 of them. Scary – I love my new job and really feel like the clients I’m helping.
People who are so- needed but- just need direction and encouragement to move through a messy patch in life….
But- I can’t manage all that this Director puts on me…So- I responded below as follows….

I’m respectfully requesting HR to attend so we have a second set of ears. I don’t want to misunderstand or have anyone misinterpret what I say.

Hr attend- the meeting and the meeting took 2 1/2 hours. I was briefed by a (20 year manager) what to say and not say.. I was so angry- I was even being called to this meeting.. I never even take lunch- but- I’m docked everyday.. I work- like a dog- helping clients and do nice things for my coworkers..

The two women Directors attacked me and made me the worst employee besides threatened my job. I figured what do I have to loose..

After their attack– I stated– don’t bully me.. Don’t put words in my mouth.. I refuse to work- and be picked on all day.. I also said, this will be– the 3rd time in 5 years you turned the department over..
I said- can you afford to turn the department again…

I also – found out in the meeting my director freely spoke for me- and complained to HR quoting me…
I was shocked as the HR Director stated – why do you complain about (this and that)..
I said, I never said that- and if- I felt that way- I would have just come to your office..
Long story short- it was the worst meeting of my career. I cried like a baby in front of these women, defending my position- I had to defend my job and even why- I liked my job..
The meeting ended with the Director- apologizing to me and I received over-time hours to complete her work since I’m backed up..

I honestly never lost my cool, I did leave and took a break (for 5 minutes) because I was so frustrated….
They never seemed to listen – until the end…
I was just crying into a tissue- and said I can’t manage all the work your giving me..
I felt weak, embarrassed and stayed true to the problem. At the end of the meeting, I was heading to my office and decided- this job isn’t worth it…
I was heading for the Door- never to return or answer any calls from anyone in the company…

I cleaned up my office- and gathered my belongings. The whole staff – and clients knew what happened the walls are very thin..

Everyone looked so- sad- they new- I was defeated. Embarrassed, humiliated and exhausted I went to the copy room to shred the paperwork from my desk.. Just policy- nothing malicious..

I see all these cards in my mailbox.
Little notes- all unsigned.. Just reminding (me) it’s just a bad day- but- everyone here loves me and that they enjoy that I come to work everyday.. There were even notes from clients- I recognized their handwriting. I honestly- started crying- even more. I didn’t quit- but- I’m looking for a new job- because once you go to HR- or complain about a Manager your done..

I not- letting anyone take my power– a lot of (change) will take place because of that meeting… However, the person who fills my position- will benefit not me… Its the price we pay- to stand up to a bully….. I won’t have it any other way….

I love, love, love this and i.am.sending it to Sumitomo
Electric where they vilify women and praise sexist ageist foreign men who.make predatory comments about the female managers

Well said. Problem is I’m 52 years old and female AND work in the Silicon Forest – Sumitomo Electric this time TTM Technologies before them and I now see no one wants to employ 52 year old women!

Also, I realize that was a ramble and unedited. I’ve spent so much time and energy writing professional and thoughtful drafts and sending the emails when necessary. I’ve prepped for phone calls and imagioned a million sceneries of how to approach it. I’ve spoken with mentors and tried as hard as I can to make sure every conversation was succinct and mattered. I’m tired of it and a rant with some typos is legit.

I’ve worked really hard to be in the position I am now and can’t stay in the small team geographically located far from the rest of my company with my current boss and only supporter and teammate. I haven’t gone through hr yet and have gone through so many trials and thoughtful attempts to make this work. But I’m done now either way and will attempt at the end to keep what I worked hard for and take away the problem person. If it doesn’t work, I’m quitting either way. But I won’t leave without fighting for what I worked hard to create.

I applaud everyone who rightfully stand up for themselves and their work ethic and standards. If someone else brings that down, if you’ve tried everything you can and if you can’t continue letting things be unhealthy and unprofessional
For you and others around you, you are in the right to speak up.

Be strong and whatever the outcome be proud of what you’ve accomplished and your efforts to maintain integrity.

I don’t want to quit because of someone else’s failures. But if it happens that way , and in this case, not all( sometimes people are completely replaceable) but in this case they are fucked. And my efforts and records and professionalism and value will be something. In my case they are fucked. And at that point I did everything I could for myself and the company.

I’m here because of a similar situation. And empathize. It’s very hard to see your hard work and those before and around destroyed by one person.

Oh yah, of course. HR’s job these days is to protect the company from you. They don’t give a rat’s ass about you!