I’ve got another one for you: (Go here for the first problem.)
Is it LEGAL for your supervisor (also your HR Manager) to forbid you from going to lunch with any employee at all? How about whole departments?
Might that vary from state to state? Or is there a federal law?
Oh, and it’s not stated anywhere in our employee handbook.
Thanks for any advice. I’ve tried to do some research on this but can’t find anything concrete.
Honestly, I have no idea. From what I know, I can’t see where it would be illegal, but it might be. I’m certainly no expert on employment law, especially in all 50 states.
Here’s the problem. Your manager and you don’t see eye to eye. She doesn’t like the way you dress. She doesn’t want you interacting with the employees. She doesn’t trust your judgment.
Now, I happen to think you have great judgment because you come to me for advice, but that aside, it’s time to either change to be what she wants or move on.
There are many reasons why HR should not be chummy with the employees. Does your boss not socialize at lunch either? If she doesn’t, then this is one of her policies and learn to love it or leave. If she does, it’s your judgment she doesn’t trust.
It takes a great deal of time to build up trust in someone who you already have negative feelings for. You’ll have to work three times as hard to prove yourself to this person. You’ll have to act in ways that are not natural to you.
You can certainly do this, but why? Polish your resume and start looking for a new job where you will have a better fit. And while you are polishing, take a good look at yourself. What is it that this woman doesn’t like? While she may be completely irrational, there are probably some valid reasons for her concerns.
Figure out what they are and correct them or this will haunt you the rest of your career.