People aren’t very good at judging themselves. We like to think we are, but it turns out we’re not very good at it all. If you doubt this, think about the times you’ve sat down with an employee and discussed their performance, only to be met with blank stares and utter denial.
Columbia Business School Professor Daniel R. Ames and doctoral candidate Abbie W. Wazlawek conducted research where, at the end of a negotiation session they asked the participants to rate both themselves and their partners on how assertive they had been–under assertive, appropriately assertive and over assertive. Funny thing is, self perception didn’t match up with their partner’s perception–no better than flipping a coin.
All this boils down to the very real possibility that you are a jerk and you don’t realize it. Seem impossible? Read this and then ask if that is still impossible.
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