I get a weekly e-mail from BLR called HR Strange But True. It’s usually some fluff about resumes or such. Interesting, but nothing to blog about.
Until the last e-mail. They proclaim that “Sexists Get Paid More!” This, is a “strange” phenomenon. Bah. They have not thought it through.
First of all, let’s get rid of the inflammatory language. Sexists connotes someone who thinks women aren’t capable of competing with men. That’s not what the study says at all. Why don’t we say, “Traditional Men Get Paid More!” That, I think, is a bit less biased.
Anyway, BLR is in shock (shock, I tell you!) that men who want a wife that stays at home make more money then those with more “egalitarian views” do. It’s all about choices, people.
If a man believes that the best situation is for him to be married and have a wife that does not work, then guess what? He’s most likely to marry a woman who will stay at home. And what will that wife be doing? Taking care of the house, the kids, paying the bills, waiting for the plumber, arguing with the phone company, and generally taking responsibility for a million different things.
The man who believes the best situation is for him to be married to a woman who also works will most likely be married to a…drum roll please…a wife who also works. What does this mean? Well, he’s got to either share in all those responsibilities listed above, or he is a real jerk who lets his wife, who works as much as he does, take care of all that stuff plus his marriage is shakier because she’s angry at him for not helping. What about the woman who works with a working husband? Or the single person? All of these people have essentially two jobs–the one at home and the one at work.
The “traditional” man has someone else taking care of all the outside hassles of life. He, essentially, only works one job–the one he’s paid for. Does it not make sense that he should be able to focus more on work? He never has to worry about having clean socks or missing an important meeting because one of the kids is puking.
It’s all about choice. And it shouldn’t surprise anyone that there are consequences with each choice.