I started a new role a few months ago, and several of the senior leaders I work with are neurodiverse. My direct manager, who is in an executive role, told us she has ADHD, and I’ve never worked closely with someone who communicates in this way before.
I’m really struggling to keep up with her communication style. She sends frequent, rapid-fire messages across multiple platforms, and the pace feels overwhelming. There’s a strong emphasis on speed over precision, which often leads to constant shifting priorities and side conversations. I’ll spend time on a task, only for it to be dropped or changed shortly after. It’s exhausting and disorienting.
I understand that priorities shift in fast-paced environments, but I’m starting to feel like I’m seen as a blocker. My manager often jumps in and does the thinking for me, which leaves me frustrated and unsure of my role. I catch myself replying with things like “That’s already done,” in a bit of a panic, just to stay ahead.
Honestly, I feel anxious every time I get a message from her. She’s kind and well-intentioned, but I’m not adjusting well to her work style, and I’m beginning to lose confidence. I’m impatient and have even lashed out in frustration, which I know isn’t okay.
To read my answer, click here: My Boss (Who Has ADHD) Bombards Me With Rapid-Fire Requests. Can I Ask Her to Slow It Down?
Very good article about dealing with the people we work with who are never going to be perfect and how to approach conversations to clear up misunderstandings
This struck close to home. ❤️ I appreciate the reminder to see people as individuals rather than labels because I have worked with (and for) people who think and communicate differently. When work styles diverge, it’s very easy to become frustrated, but discussions based on respect and curiosity can have a big impact.
Setting boundaries for communication and appreciating one another’s strengths are excellent tips. We’re all ultimately just trying to do good work, albeit sometimes in different ways and at different speeds.